What if you see a friend on a dating site
Or, let’s say the other person hadn’t even intended to swipe right on you, because sometimes people swipe accidentally.
If you then swipe back and get matched, you could leave the other person feeling creeped out.” romantically interested in a coworker, and seeking a low-stakes way to test the waters?
Whether they’re a crush, friend, or that dude from IT, this confrontation is jarring. Isn’t swiping right the perfect way to reveal your crush, given your colleague will only know that you “liked” them if they’ve also “liked” you? But trivial as the issue seems, a misplaced swipe could have a profound impact on your workplace comfort.
As Tina Fey would say, seeing a coworker on a dating app is “like seeing a dog walk on its hind legs.” Equal parts terrifying, and can’t look away. If you’re not interested in dating your coworker, should you swipe right to be funny, or just say hi? Or is it insane that you would even consider that being rude, or think about swiping right in the first place? To settle the matter, I consulted Alison Green, work culture expert and author of the popular blog, “Ask a Manager” (now adapted into a book, set to publish in May 2018).
For the rest of us, sexual and romantic feelings in the office are pretty common: Some 40% of US workers have already participated in office romances, recent surveys show. Most dating apps (including Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel) feature geographic filters, enabling users to swipe through potential matches who live close by.
In a city, people who work in the same office often live within five to 15 miles of one another, an average dating app range.
Facebook says it trusts its employees to disclose a relationship when there is a conflict of interest.
Failure to do so will lead to disciplinary action.’ Officially documented dating policies aren’t the be-all and end-all.
As the Wall Street Journal reports, “At Facebook, if a potential date involves a person in a more senior position than the other, the date itself doesn’t necessarily have to be disclosed to HR.If one date leads to another, consult your company’s employee handbook and review its workplace relationships policy before making things public.According to a 2015 Career survey of 8,000 US professionals, 72% of workers who’ve engaged in office relationships didn’t try to hide them—a dramatic increase from 2010, when, per the same survey, 54% of respondents who engaged in office romances chose to keep them secret.Have you ever spied on someone to see if they’re still using the site when you think you’re starting to get serious?How did you feel when you saw that they were “active within 24 hours”?