Dating again after infidelity
You're not alone: Research shows that infidelity rates may be as high as 60 to 70% (but it's tough to get an exact number because it's all self-reported).And you can't just blame the guys: One Indiana University study found that women and men cheat at the same rate.For her, dating and sex with new partners after her husband's affair boosted her sex drive.MORE: Try A New Sex Position Tonight Infidelity will test even the most resilient relationships.(Here's why one woman stayed with her husband after he cheated.) Here's what kind of changes you can expect.
"People who recover from infidelity are usually able to go within themselves and recapture their center of power," says Kerner.
She and her husband spent some time apart and once she started dating again, she was reminded that she was lovable and desirable.
"Oddly, getting cheated on completely changed my self-confidence for the better, and I've been able to hang onto that feeling ever since," she says.
Not attractive, smart, or funny enough," says a mother of two from Brooklyn.
(We asked a private investigator and here are 8 signs of a cheater) The unexpectedly good news is that those feelings of inadequacy didn't last long—at least for her.